Q&A with Eve Ensler: "Just Tell the Truth"
Eve Ensler is best known for her taboo-breaking play,
ďThe Vagina Monologues.Ē She is also the driving force behind V-Day, a movement
to prevent violence against women and girls. V-Day is celebrated on or near
Valentineís Day in more than 700 communities and college campuses worldwide and
has raised $35 million for violence-prevention programs. Ensler has just
released her first book written directly for the printed page, Insecure at Last: Losing it in our
Security-Obsessed World.óDavid Swick
Why did you write this book now?
I am overwhelmed by the obsession in this country with
security. Everything seems to be about becoming secure. So I started thinking,
Why, when this country is more obsessed with security than ever before, do I
feel more insecure than ever before? What is that about? And what is security?
Is security possible? Is it the point of our existence? Because it doesnít feel
like becoming secure is why Iím here.
If security is not the point, what is the point?
To learn how to love, connect, bring about peace, look
at justice, look at how to reverse the current paradigm that is desperately
rushing us toward our end. The more we become obsessed about being secure, the
more narrow we becomeóthe more fundamentalist, the more terrified of risk, and
the more unable to step outside our own little tribes, frameworks, houses, and
nations. The point is to become free: free of fear, free of attachment, free of
jealousy, free of all those things.
In 2003, you wrote a letter to President Bush denouncing
a paradigm of domination and violence in America. What is the key to getting
more men to oppose violence against women?
Men need to start speaking a different kind of truth. I
just finished a run in New York
of my new play, ďThe Treatment.Ē It looks at what torture does to the
tortureróhow it shatters his soul. In some ways I am more proud of that play
than of anything I have ever done, because it was the first time I was able to
let myself climb into the heart and being of a man. It was a life-changing
experience, because I really felt in my bones, in my cells, in my structure,
the tyranny of patriarchy, the tyranny of the militarization of the soul. When men
finally get to a point where they can openly fight against that kind of
violence and domination, the world is going to shift. What we have to do to
bring that about is the big question.
I saw a great movie recently, Half Nelson, in which a man committed violence almost because he
didnít know what else to do.
If you are brought up in a culture, as men are, that
tells you from the time you are born that the worst thing you can do is feel,
that the worst thing you can do is cry or express your vulnerability, what
options are you left with? I mean, if I couldnít cry, I would be in an
institution. I donít know what I would do to process the sorrow and loss and
rage and heartbreak of being alive in this century. So, I think about men and
ask myself, What do they do with that feeling? Where does it go? It seems
logical that itís going to turn into violence.
Do you think of yourself primarily as an activist now,
rather than a writer?
Iím trying not to use any labels like that anymore,
because then I get into this duality: am I a this or a that, as opposed to a
human being? All of us, including me, like to know who people are. We like to
say, ďHeís a that; sheís a this.Ē Then we think we know who they are. What Iím
realizing more and more is that I donít know who I am. This process of living
is evolving me all the time.
What are some of the challenges and obstacles you are
encountering these days in that process of evolution?
The way the world is structured, the way the media is
structured, the way this country is structured. For example, when I was touring
with this book, I noticed that the media is structured in a way that requires
you to have an enemy. If you donít have an enemy, someone youíre attacking,
they donít have any use for you. Itís very patriarchal. You can come on one of
the shows if you have a position. Iím not really that interested in positions.
Iím interested in transformation, reflection, feeling.
Does your work have a spiritual basis?
I donít see the kind of work I do and spirituality as
separate. Anything that attempts to grapple with ambiguity or mystery or love
is spiritual at its core.
Are you familiar with the work of Pema Chödrön?
Iíve read almost everything she has written. In fact,
itís funny you should bring that up. I was dreaming last night that I would go
away for two weeks and be mentored by her and study under her. Thatís how I got
myself to go to sleep.
How do you stay whole and human in the middle of the
whirlwind that must be your life now?
I have certain practices. Iím a Buddhist; Iíve been
practicing for years. I chant. I do a lot of exercise. I try to let myself feel
whatever it is Iím feeling. Iím often in the midst of a lot of peopleís pain. A
lot of people feel compelled, on the basis of what Iím sharing, to share their
pain with me. Itís an enormous privilege, but I feel honored, and itís also
extremely painful. Yesterday I had one of those days when I was quite low and I
cried for a good part of it. Now Iím better. When we cry, when we take the time
to go through what weíre going through, it passes. Many of us donít think we
have the right to feel what we are feeling, so we hold on to it. It
metastasizes and makes us feel worse and worse.
What do you hope to accomplish next?
Iím very happy with the theme of V-Day this year,
ďReclaiming Peace.Ē Our spotlight is on women in conflict zones. I think weíll
be doing V-Days in Beirut and Africa.
Hopefully weíre going to Darfur.
Many writers and activists aim to get this kind of
attention for worthy projects. ďThe Vagina MonologuesĒ is now being staged in
ninety-one countries and thirty-five languages. Why did it succeed where others
The play let women say what they wanted to say, and by
doing that, it empowered them. It also had to do with the simplicity of telling
oneís story. When you are younger, you think everything is complicated and out
of reach. Then you get older and realize that everything is very simple in a
certain way. If you just tell the truth, things change.
From the May 2009 issue of the Shambhala Sun.
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